I am in my mid to late 30s and started to learn to drive three years ago. When I first started I felt I made major improvements and within 5-6 months I took my first test. I was completely confident and understood what I was doing. I failed my test on one major and zero minors. It really shook me. My instructor at the time said I'd regret not passing that one, and he was right! I took another one and failed dismally (I can't remember why, but I was shaking). My instructor retired, so I drove with a new one, took a test, and failed even more dismally (I started the test without putting my seat belt on, but he failed me on something else).
I then gave up.
Then I tried it again, very briefly, and just felt bored and odd about driving, so gave up after two lessons. Now, since January I've started driving again, and I am simply a bad driver. There is nothing else to say. Unlike three years ago, I simply no longer understand driving. Every situation at junctions and roundabouts seems ambiguous to me. My new instructor says I am too scared and nervous, but that isn't even the case anymore. I simply have lost the ability to read any situation. Nothing seems obvious to me. Whether this is a deliberate blocking mechanism on my part, I don't know. Nor do I really know how to address it.
I take one lesson a week. I am close to giving up completely, knowing that if I do, that's it forever. We have a child and we're thinking of another baby, so I could do with the licence, but I just feel a million miles away. My theory test has lapsed of course and I haven't even begun to think about that.
Any tips on how to think your way into driving culture would be helpful. Shall I take a week off work and do one of those intensive courses where you drive the whole time? Any advice would be welcome for a dispirited learner.